Earlier this week, for an interview that eventually didn't happen, I was asked to consider what personal character defects or challenges I had needed to overcome in order to get from where I was to where I am now in ministry. A very interesting question! And one that after reflecting on I was able to answer with the following 5 words:
FEAR-fear of what other people think of me has often been a challenge in the past, and also fear of failure has been difficult to cope with. Similarly, I still have to try hard to overcome fears about the future and sometimes find myself racked with gloom and almost despair.
FAILURE-actually failing occasionally has always bought with it self-doubt, anger and disappointment. Whether it's been losing playing cricket, doing badly in an exam or a test, or seeing a project not work.
FAMILY-now I need to say very forcefully that I don't mean anybody in my family, but rather that I fight hard to avoid demonstrating the same character defaults and damaging behavior that my natural father displayed. He left my mother when I was 4 or 5 by the way. Also, two of my biggest ministry challenges in life have been in trying to to be good husband and a good father myself.
FOOLISHNESS-I have countless times been the victim of my own rash behavior, anger, loose tongue, selfishness and general stupidity!
FRUSTRATION-most often displayed when things don't go as planned, when things don't happen quickly enough, when people don't do what they said they would do. Selfishly manifested for a time when I thought I deserved more ministry profile and opportunity than I was getting.
THERE!- They say confession is good for the soul. Praise God that he's given me a new heart and a new spirit to conquer these obstacles!